Domestic abuse is when one person hurts or bullies another. Physical abuse such as hitting, pushing and grabbing can be part of an abusive relationship as can name calling, threats, intimidation and not letting someone out with their friends.
When this is happening at home it can be upsetting and frightening. It is important to remember that it is not your fault. Even if you are sometimes untidy or noisy or if you argue with others in the family, it does not excuse an adult becoming violent or abusive to you or anyone else.
Sometimes young people are hurt or abused themselves. Sometimes they witness a parent being abused by the other. Witnessing abuse can be frightening and you may be unsure who to talk to.
It is important that you family get help from other adults. Speak to an adult you trust about what is happening at home. This could be a youth worker, teacher, doctor, nurse or police officer. You may have a neighbour, relative or another adult you can speak to. You can also call 'Childline'.
Chantel's Story
"Mum's new boyfriend moved in when I was 13. I thought something was wrong because she seemed really sad a lot and didn’t go out like she used to. When I asked her she pretended it was all ok. When I saw him shout at her I got really scared. A few months ago he hurt her in an argument and I didn't want to be at home so I started staying out late. I told a teacher and she got a SAFE worker to call me. We talked about keeping safe and how I was feeling. I'm much happier especially as Mum got help and told him to leave."
Help Lines
Childline – 0800 1111
Samaritans – 08347 909090
MALE Helpline (for boys and young men) – 0808 801 0327
Some Useful Websites
- www.thehideout.org.uk
- www.burstingthebubble.com
- www.childline.org.uk
- www.womensaid.org.uk
